To Thine Own Self Be True. How to Be More Confident.

Can you say with the utmost confidence that you put yourself first? In all things? Or do you pick and choose when you will put yourself first and when you will take a backseat. Most of us, if we are being honest, are in the later category. In fact, we almost always think of others first and will have to adjust that thinking or delay action until we have made sure that our needs are taken care of. There are a few exceptions to this, but for the most part, we need to put ourselves first.

This isn’t just about whether you have enough sleep. It isn’t just about having enough to sustain your life and that of your family. It is more about knowing deep within yourself that you are not just sustaining yourself but you are thriving. If you thrive, you have so much more to give to yourself and to others. You have a great attitude and can think clearly – or at least know how much time or what needs to happen in order for you to be in a headspace where you can think clearly. Find out what you need to be thriving. Is it enough food that helps your body feel its best? Is it a great job where you feel valued and a part of a functioning team? Is it …you fill in the blanks. What is it that makes you feel abundant and healthy?

Once you are there, however, you need to keep yourself in that space. People and events will try to knock you off-balance. You may need to heal from a physical ailment. You might experience a loss of money, a job or even a loved one. You need to take the time you need and get the help you need to regain your balance. You might need to power through some of it, but be sure you are not doing it alone.

Your family and friends will try to help, but you need to do that which you know is right for you. For example, you may be a parent of young children and your spouse leaves you. It could be because of divorce or even death. You and your children will need to grieve and it is okay if they watch you experience that. It can help them with their own feelings. Just be mindful that they don’t need to experience the negative side of that grief. Get them counseling and for yourself as well to help with the healing process. Find what works best for you and your children, don’t just let someone else dictate how you heal. “Suck it up buttercup” is not appropriate here. To thine own self be true. Be your best advocate here even as you grow.